It looks so great, and there are almost all quality dating sites have IM systems, including Millionaire Matchmaker, Wealthy Men Dating, as the most notable one Match.com. So the instant message makes perfect sense, right? How to use it appropriately, and effectively?
The answer is there's no fixed answer for that. Probably we'd suggest you put the IM aside at the very beginning. Or if you do, you may not receive a response, which will greatly make you frustrated. And the most important point is that you don't know why you can't get a response. Luckily, dating experts from Millionaire Match has brought you some tips for why you don't get a response on IM, here's why:
She's busy. We can surely say that the one you want to talk to is beautiful or impressive enough, otherwise you will not be interested. So others will have the same thoughts. So that? She may have hundreds of new emails from different people and is trying to figure out which one should be replied to. And possibly she is talking with 3 or 5 people who are just like you at the same time. Even if you may be a good match for her, your message will interrupt her.
You can't get the real reason for no responding. Maybe she just met a computer problem and can't type anything back immediately, maybe your message is delayed by the network and can't be displayed on her computer, maybe she is locating your profile and thinking on what she can talk to you, maybe she is not interested, or maybe she is watching a movie or playing games online, etc. There can be too many possibilities. And you just know one thing: you get no response. And you may simply think the reason for no response is she is not interested, which is a great loss for you. So, IM brings more hurts if you don't use it appropriately.
The IM system may not work perfectly. ON Gtalk or AIM, you can connect anyone online immediately, and the system works perfectly. But on a dating site, their IM software may not be so perfect. Sometimes the dating site may tell you that someone is online when she is really not, and even if you get the conversation initiated, you are likely to run into problems due to the slow system.
So, IM has brought us so many troubles, should be get rid of it? The answer is negative for sure. You just need to use it correctly.
Tip 1, don't initiate a chat with IM. Email will be much more effective and stable. If you send her an impressive email, she will know who you are and wants to know more about you. Then, it's more effective for you to start IM conversation.
Tip 2, try to make your first sentence impressive if it's your first IM conversation. Don't use a simple "hello" or something like that, which is a waste of time.
Tip 3, have something to say. Before you start the conversation, you may want to read the profile once again and know what kind of topics will be interested by you both.
Tip 4, Keep your initial IM conversation brief. Don't write too much info in IM just like you are writing an email. "Short" is one of the most important features for online dating IM systems.
Tip 5, Don't get too personal too quickly. When you start to talk with someone, you are a stranger. So some private things should not be talked on the beginning if you are looking for a serious relationship. For those hookers, they may simply post something like sex in 3 or 5 sentences, which should never be applied to serious online daters.
Tip 6, End your conversation well. First impression and last impression are everything. If you are interested in the talk and want to go further, try to let her know that.
Tip 7, Last but not least, don't tell your real home address or phone number to strangers in your first conversation unless you are 100% sure the people on the other end is reliable.