The secret to understanding men -- and using it to your advantage
When it comes to your relationships with men, which of the following do you find yourself saying? (Check the ones that apply to you.)
"Why didn't he call?" "How can I find the right man? "Why do I always date losers? "Why doesn't he love me anymore? "What am I doing wrong? "Why do some women have great relationships with men -- and mine are always dull, unfulfilling and boring? "If only I could understand men...."
If you checked one or more of the above, then the following article may be the most eye-opening one you'll ever read.
The important thing to remember is that you're not alone. Most women -- whether single or married -- have asked themselves these kinds of questions. In my 16 years of relationship counseling, I've found that the reason women have these concerns is because they simply don't understand men.
Did you know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, influence a man to your way of thinking, bring him to his knees, make him want to spend his life with you -- and want to fulfill your every desire?
Yes, it's true! You can have a healthy, loving relationship. And the best part is that you can do it easily and effortlessly by being yourself -- and NOT shaping yourself into someone you're not just to keep your man interested. I'll give you solid proof of this in a moment.
When you read this article in its entirety, you'll discover how to tap into the power that resides within you -- whether you want to revolutionize your dating life, get married or spark the fire within your marriage.
Who Am I -- and Why Should You Believe Me?
My name is Bob Grant. I've been a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach for 16 years. The majority of my clients are women, who have sought my help in creating successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men.
More than the certificates and licenses I've accumulated over the years, I take most pride in the number of wedding invitations I receive from my clients who've found successful, healthy relationships as a result of my relationship advice and tips. I've also saved dozens of marriages from disaster, dissolution -- and just plain boredom.
That's why I'm called "The Relationship Doctor." I have the prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.
The method I'm about to reveal to you is not based on theory, guesswork or the "psycho-babble" that's disseminated by pop psychologists, self-help books and women's magazines. Unlike other resources that claim to help you understand men, my strategy is based on real-life feedback from thousands of real-life women who tried my relationship advice and found that it produced a dramatic difference in their relationships with men.
Now, you can find out what my method can do for you. Whether you're ...
a single woman who wants to attract the right man -- or add romance to your dating life
a woman who dates frequently, but finds it hard to sustain a relationship with a man;
a woman who wants to be married but can't seem to persuade the man in your life to pop the question; or
a married woman who wants to spark the fire within your marriage and enjoy deeper intimacy with your husband
... you'll discover the secret that will make you radiate like a warm and glowing campfire -- and give you an aura that men will find absolutely irresistible.
How to Be the Woman Men Adore ... and Never Want to Leave
Have you ever met the kind of woman ...
that men fall hopelessly in love with with whom men want to spend all their time whom men want to please and do anything for who brings out the romantic and passionate side of a man; and to whom men want to give everything? What special quality, trait, or personality does this woman have that men find attractive and draws them like a magnet, makes men powerless in her hands, and makes them want to spend their lives with her?
I've personally met many women like this -- and here's the startling observation I've made: These women are not necessarily the most beautiful, the tallest, the smartest, the one with the most gorgeous hair, sexy legs or the most ample breasts, as one might think!
A look back in history reveals the likes of ...
... homely divorcée Wallis Simpson, for whom the Duke of Windsor abdicated the throne of England; ... the early-twentieth-century French writer Colette (described as having a "frightful" appearance), who managed to have numerous male conquests; ... Martha Gellhorn, the plain-looking scholar for whom Ernest Hemingway became love-sick and never recovered; ... Mumtaz, for whom the Emperor Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal; and ... Camilla Parker Bowles, who won the heart of Prince Charles.
And then, of course, there's Barbra Streisand, who captured the heart of, and later married, the handsome actor James Brolin. In fact, she reportedly refused his many marriage proposals before finally agreeing to be his wife.
These kinds of women know the secret to creating magic with men. And here's the good news for you, if you're like most women who struggle with relationship trouble. The ability to create magic with men is NOT really magic at all. It’s a skill which can be learned by any woman -- and that includes you!
Before I tell you how to acquire that secret skill (which already resides inside you, though dormant), let me ask you a question:
Why Do Most Women Struggle in Their Relationships with Men?
There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble, but as I mentioned before, the main reason is that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.
If you're like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) -- it's unwise to take relationship advice or tips from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden -- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men.
Now, don't get me wrong. Some of your girlfriends might indeed have the wisdom to give you good advice -- but that advice will almost always be based only on their own limited experience and observation. Just because your girlfriend has had an experience similar to yours doesn't mean her advice applies to your situation.
I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn't working right!
Just goes to show how little women know about men!
Everything You Ever Learned About How to Attract and Keep a Man is Wrong!
There's another insidious thing masquerading as relationship advice for women -- and that is, women's magazines. Women's magazines teach women how to look, be and act around men -- and only serve to impress other women, propagate poor self-image, and show women how to "hook" a man by being everything but themselves. Sadly, most of the relationship tips that women's magazines give were written by women for women -- and they don't enable women to understand men at all.
What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just by being yourself?
Yes, you don't have to be anything but yourself. There's just one condition. You also have to understand what a man wants.
Will Giving a Man What He Wants Get You What You Want?
My answer is a resounding "Yes!"
Here's the hidden key to a loving relationship. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.
Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick -- and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" -- or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they?