/// Part Two ///
Creating a High Net Worth Appearance
( The Gold Digger's Guide to Beauty, Exercise, Dieting, Makeup and Fashion)
Chapter Five
BEING PRESENTABLE
When you are tracking big game on the High Net Worth Dating Circuit, you must pay attention to your quarry's surroundings. Understanding his social environment is as important as understanding him. You are not just seducing a single male, you must seduce his friends, parents, business colleagues and children, if any. All of these people have the ability to obstruct your path to the altar. If they don't like you, they may try to poison your relationship with your intended.
Getting the important people to like you, or at least be neutral toward you, requires effort, awareness and attention to detail. You will have to do things that these people perceive as being in their interest.
There are two basic aspects to making your intended happy with your relations with his family, friends and colleagues. The first is being presentable. The second is being an asset.
If you are not presentable, you will never get anywhere with your man. While he may adore sucking your toes, making love to you for hours on end or staying in bed with you for days at a time, if you are not presentable, he will never consider marrying you.
Looking the Part
Being presentable means understanding how he and his friends and family imagine his ideal mate. you must be warm and wholesome when you meet his parents or children. You must project the appearance of a responsible and caring person, not of a sexpot who can barely stand up in her high heels.
Here are some qualities you should display with his friends and family:
1) Be Gracious and Attentive.
Talk to everyone. Don't play favorites. If you are both at a party at his house, make sure the guests are comfortable, have been properly introduced and have a drink in their hand. Many rich men are utterly lacking in social skills and are dependent on their girlfriend to keep things moving smoothly at parties. if you do this well, he may begin to become socially dependent on you. He will have a better time when he goes out with you because he sees that you make an effort to attract and please other people. He will know that you know how to handle his family and friends in a positive way. If you are not normally gracious and attentive, take an acting class and pretend to be gracious and attentive.
20 Your Dress and Makeup Should Convey Elegance and Simplicity.
No fake nails or wild nail patterns. No excessive makeup. No wild fishnets at business or family gatherings or on visits with his five-year-old. Convey a positive, wholesome appearance for these important persons in his life.
30 Accents
There are only two universally acceptable accents. none and British. A heavy New Jersey, queens, Brooklyn, Midwestern or Boston accent will mark you as undesirable for life. If you have such an accent, or if you have a harsh, high-pitched or squeaky voice, hire a voice coach and start changing it. there is no point in circulating socially until you have gotten rid of your undesirable accent. High net worth men don't even want a hooker with a Brooklyn accent, much less a wife.
Southern accents can be charming and sexy. Some men are attracted to Southern accents. As long as you sound educated and sophisticated you can keep your southern accent.
Foreign accents are generally okay and can be a plus. British, French, Italian and Scandinavian or Dutch accents can be very sexy for the high net worth American. U.K. regional or lower class accents such as Jordy, Cockney, Irish or Scottish are not acceptable and should be purged. Unless your last name is Fanjul, heavy Spanish accents are generally not acceptable, even if you are Spanish.
4) Fat is Not Presentable.
There is only one body type the high net worth man really wants: Tall and thin, or failing that, medium tall and thin. Anything else and you are starting with a significant handicap. We don't care how tall you are. If you weigh more than 150 pounds you are not eligible for major league play.
High net worth men do not date or marry fat women. And if they marry a woman who becomes fat they will usually divorce her. The reasons for this are simple. Men do not like being shamed in front of other men. being with a fat woman means that all you can get is a genetically undesirable fat person. to be seen with a fat women is the ultimate humiliation for a man. It's like driving a beat-up car. A normal guy won't go near you if you are fat. While some men are fat fetishists, these men are rarely desirable high net worth targets.
Stay home until you are thin. And when you get thin, never admit you were once fat. he does not want to hear how proud you are of your weight loss accomplishments. he will be thinking only one thing, "she was fat once, she can be fat again!"
5) Hair is Only For Your Head.
The only hair on your body should be on the top of your head. In particular, there should be no mustache, no underarm hair, no nipple hair and no hair on your legs. your pubis should be completely shaved or have a thin, trim line leading down to your vagina. Dark hair on the arms can be just as unattractive as on your legs. Men like you smooth and soft. Men don't like hairy women. They want a Brazilian.
Shave it, wax it, laser it. But whatever you do, get rid of it!
6) Teeth
Teeth should be clean, white and bright with a fresh pink tongue. If you have grey or yellow teeth you will have to have them fixed or go et veneers. No one wants to kiss a woman with yellow teeth. Cosmetic dentistry can be the difference between being in the game or out of it.
7) Hands and Toes
Men do not like to see cracked or half painted fingers or toes. If you want a man to thank you don't care enough about yourself and him to have a manicure and pedicure, by all means stay home and concentrate on your career. Because you are never going to get married.
use one solid color. he does not want to see a kaleidoscope when he looks at your feet. And please no blue toenails! if you nails are bitten, half painted or painted in tracky colors it tells a man you don't care what the world thinks of him or you. Don't go to a date unless your nails are flawless.
8) Hire an Image Consultant
Held back by poor table manners, lousy taste, weak conversational skills, a grating accent, limited education or bad hair? No problem. hire an image consultant to polish your table manners and dining gestures and to help you achieve a complete professional image which enhances your best attributes while masking your flaws. The folks at essential image will even provide education on "fine food, drinks and wines" and help you "restructure and build... a well rounded wardrobe." And yes they can recommend a speech therapist, dietician, cosmetic surgeon and even an orthodontist or dance instructor. By the time they get through with you, you will look in the mirror and think you are seeing a young Brooke Astor!
(To be continued.)
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Chapter Three
THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT MEN
Men Are Not a Mystery
Many women are constantly puzzled by the behavior of men. These women keep expecting men to act like women and are surprise when they don't.
Men are not like women. They are, if you will, a different kind of machine. But a machine nonetheless. They behave in very predictable ways, more so perhaps than women.
here are some characteristics of men that may surprise you.
Men do not talk to each other about relationships
In fact, Men do not talk to each other at all. That's how they have time to watch sports. Men do not interpret life in terms of relationships. They interpret life in terms of results. They therefore have a much more black and white view of the world than women.
Men do not care about flowers
When a man gives you a beautiful bouquet you may be moved to tears. But he won't care about them at all. He is giving them to you to make you do something he wants you to do or to prevent you from doing something he doesn't want you to do (like dumping him). Most likely the flowers were chosen by his secretary. The only input he had was to say, "Don't go over $65." When you call to tell him how beautiful they are, keep in mind that he probably has no idea what he sent you.
Men do not even like flowers. If they did, they would give them to each other.
Men are visually oriented.
Men are initially attracted to you by your physical appearance. (Hence the importance of looking good). A man will almost never ask you out unless he is pleased and excited by your physical appearance.
A man may like you because you have nice feet. he may like you because you have large breasts or he may like you because you have long legs or beautiful eyes and thick pouty lips. It does not matters what he likes about you. he may call you obsessively because he is fantasizing about sucking your toes or having sex with you from behind. This does not mean he cares about you. In fact, you can be sure that he doesn't. you haven't had time for him to done to you. But you can still reel him in using the things he likes about you even if a continuing relationships is not initially on his agenda.
Healthy heterosexual men are not naturally monogamous
Men like to fool around. Given the chance they will. This is nothing personal. If they don't cheat on you it's not because they don't want to, it's because they value your relationship more than they do the chance for casual sex, or they may just be lacking opportunities to cheat. All things being equal, however, the majority of men will cheat on you if they have the opportunity.
Men are attracted to women of childbearing years
While you may grow old, your man will continue to be attracted to women of childbearing years. Women can be quite comfortable with a much older man. Men, on the other hand, are genetically biologically programmed to be primarily attracted to women who are under 35-years old. Men are designed to want children and they select mates that are capable of having them. That's whey many wealthy men trade in their wives for a younger woman every 10 years or so. This is not because men are evil of selfish. This is simply because they are men. Men want to be with a woman of a woman of childbearing years even if they don't want to have children. This is why you must be prepared to fight for a big divorce settlement if he decides to trade you in.
Sex becomes more and more infrequent the time you spend together. however, his sex drive is by no means diminished.
There is an old joke that there is no sex after marriage. After a year or so of marriage you may find that this joke is on you. Your man will usually grow tired of having sex with you. This is a very bad sign for the future of your relationship, because you can be sure that his sex drive has not diminished. Your man just isn't finding you as the outlet he wants anymore.
Men like to please women, but they must feel that they can please her
A man will dump a woman he is very attracted to physically if he feels he cannot please. Men like to please women. But a woman who is constantly and relentlessly demanding will not hold on to her man because he will soon realize that no matter what he does he can never please her. This will make him miserable. More importantly, it will make him dump her. Encourage your man by showing him that he can make you happy. That will make him happy.
Men can be broken
Ask any woman who has been married five years or more. She has found the way to break down her man by getting him into a routine of being with her. Eventually they get used to the idea of being with you. after that he may get used to the idea of not being with other women, although in many cases this is a longer process. The point is you can succeed in breading him down by subtly working your way into every aspect of his life.
Men can't read your mind and don't want to
Worse than that they don't have a clue what is in it. that's why you must communicate clearly what you expect of him. Communicate in a clear but positive and upbeat way what it is you want him to do. He will want to please you if you show him you care. Being angry with him will just turn him off to you. If you yell at him you can be sure he won't do what you want. Don't expect him to know what you want. The thing you want would probably never occur to him in a thousand years. it's up to you to communicate your needs and desires. If you don't, no one else will.
Men view how you look as a reflection on them
No man wants to be seen with an unattractive or unpresentable woman. Every an wants to be seen with a beautiful woman on his arm. This is the highest status a man can achieve. There is nothing more humiliating for a man than to be seen with an ugly woman. From his perspective your looks are not about you, they are assets to him. If you don't look good enough to make him proud he will drop you. And he may do so after years of marriage. The high net worth man's nagging desire to trade up is an issue you will facing throughout your tenure as a high net worth wife. Keep in mind that because he is rich he will always be able to replace you if he wants to. Protect yourself financially in case disaster strikes. It can arrive with startling swiftness.
Life is a Business; Marring a High Net Worth Man is a Job
Life is a business and human beings are traders by nature. Your man will only care about you if he perceives that you are adding value to his life. You add value by being presentable to his friends, colleagues, family and strangers, by being an asset in his life and by giving him what he wants in bed. Unless you are providing value you can be sure he won't marry you. No employer will hire a person who can't do the job. Your knight in the shining silver jet will certainly not marry you unless he perceives you as someone who can provide continuing value. Being his wife is a very lucrative opportunity which can provide lifetime security and benefits for you and your future children. In exchange you will be expected to supervise and decorate multiple households, arrange social events, bear his children, be available for sex (whenever and however he wants it), make sure his life runs smoothly and look damn good doing it. It won't be easy but it will be well worth it!
Chapter Four
THE MOGUL PERSONALITY
If you are going to dig for real gold, you had better understand what you are getting into. While every mogul is different, with many unique positive and negative characteristics, the super-successful man will usually have the following qualities.
1) He will be different.
One of the most attractive qualities of the super-successful man is his highly developed sense of self-confidence. He knows who he is and he knows that he wants. If he want you he means it.
2) He will be very intelligent.
The super-successful man has a piercing intelligence that often gives him the ability to unravel extremely complex and difficult circumstances and see through to the most probable end result and how it will affect him. Such men often have a unique eye-opening perspective on the world because they see things so differently from the mass of ordinary people.
One mogul we know how had just bought a gay newspaper in a major city to help with his liberal wife's election campaign was being lambasted in the press by gay activists for buying the newspaper in that they viewed as a Wall Street takeover o fan important gay media outlet. When we asked this mogul how he felt about the thrashing he was getting from the press his response was certainly counter-intuitive:
"We think it's great," he said, "It's free publicity for the paper which will make mainstream advertisers comfortable that they can advertise with us without being identified with the radical gay element. This will increase our revenue between 20 and 305. Of course he was right.
3) He will be a risk taker.
You may find your mogul repeatedly gambling his existing assets to build something bigger. Your stomach may be permanently experiencing that sinking feeling from the incredible risks he is willing to take. But don't worry. Even when they fail, these guys can usually pick themselves up and get back on their feet in very short order. Read Trump: The art of the comeback, by co-authors Kate Bohner and Donald J. Trump, for a good example of how a mogul made it back from the precipice.
4) He has a low level of fear.
While he may not be completely fearless, he will be unafraid to be himself and will be much less afraid of external circumstances than the ordinary person.
5) He will be extremely energetic.
He may not need much sleep. He will have the energy to run you ragged.
6) He will be charming
Even when a successful man lacks social skills he will have charm. If he is charmless he is unlikely to stay successful.
7) He will be aware of the surrounding circumstances and people to the extent that they affect him.
He knows how others perceive him and he will have a sense (perhaps a somewhat exaggerated sense) of his own power.
8) He will be determined and persistent, even ruthless in getting what he wants.
He may perceive obstacles as opportunities and if he really wants something he will not take 'NO" for an answer.
9) He will be optimistic and positive in dealing with others.
He will be confident about his ability to get what he wants. That's how he become so successful in the first place.
10) He will be extraordinarily, mind-bogglingly selfish.
The super-successful man always asks what is in it for him. His ultimate concern is himself. It will be a challenge to make him care about you.
11) The super-successful are sued to getting their own way. Quickly, and watch out for detectives. You may find that he is controlling to the point of having you followed or kept under surveillance.
12) He may be one of more of the following:
i) Narcissistic;
ii) Charismatic;
iii) Secretive;
iv) Stingy;
v) Angry and irritable in private;
vi) Difficult to bond with;
vii) An insomniac;
viii) Or large girth or appetites;
ix) Vengeful;
x) A liar
13) He will understand that life is a business.
He will want to know what value you can add to his life.
Mogul personalities are often very difficult to live with if you fight with them for control. They may clash with a strong independent woman. Mogul personalities like to control the people around them. Sometimes they control people by taking care of them. in effect they want to own you. There is no point in fighting with him over this. You are not going to win. With the mogul personality, demonstrating your financial independence may make him uncomfortable. He will like to pay for you and give you gifts. This is something you should be able to learn to accept.
The Trump Dump
It was pitch-black in the auditorium. Donald Trump was bellowing through the public address system: "We had the best year ever!" The employees cheered. It was the holidays. The Plaza Hotel in New York City. The Trump Organization Christmas part.
Kate Bohner had spent the past months writing trump: The Art of the Comeback. Like many business magazine journalists, she had jumped at the chance to write what had to become a bestseller. So here she was, six months hence - after Trump: The Art of the Comeback had indeed become a bestseller, number 3 on the New York Times list and number 1 for The Wall Street Journal.
"Now I want to talk about my book..." cooed the Donald into the microphone. "KateSo, you here?" His ruddy, bloated face floats above the microphone. he scanned the room. "KateSo!" he barked.
Kate raised her hand from the back of the ballroom.
"I'm the only person who has a ghost writer whose picture is on the back of the book," the Donald continued. The crowd chuckled. "But hey, she's kind of great looking. " The room bursts into applause.
Later that evening, as the bad 12-piece band blared, Kate Bohner approached the Donald. She had something very important to go over with him. It was about the book.
The deal with this. She got paid 60K for the manuscript - in three installments.
"KateSo," The Donald had told her back in May. "If the book goes above number five on the new York Times bestseller list... I'll bonus you 100 grand."
The book was at Number 3. Kate was at the Christmas party to collect her bonus.
A bit later, Kate approached The Donald. He was perched by the shrimp platter. "Hey Donald, what about my 100 grand?"
"KateSo", he turned and narrowed his eyes. "Sue me", he declared coldly.
Kate was stunned.
But why was she shocked?
Over the past year, in the course of writing the book, Kate told us she has watched The Donald offer 10 cents on the dollar to settle a bill he owed to a contractor with four kids who had just lost a big job. She had seen him fire that contractor's brother, a steam fitter, on Christmas Day. The Citiback loan officer who had turned him down for a revolving credit facility in 1995, when he nearly went personally bankrupt? The Donald spent hours ensuring her son had difficulties getting a commercial lease in New York City.
Why had Kate thought she was any different?
The truth is it was nothing personal. Trump was just being the Donald. To him it was just business. Kate hadn't gotten the bonus promise in writing. In Bohner's view, The Donald stiffed her just because he could.
Trump, like every truly successful person, is totally focused on his own needs and desires. His real expertise is taking care of himself. people like trump seem aggressively selfish... because they are. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.
Study your target carefully. If he has a classic mogul personality, you will be able to fit very nicely into his life on his terms in the classic manner. he pays the bills and you lobby quitely for the things you really want. Whatever power you have will have to be exerted from within the context of your relationship through cajoling and persuasion.
In a sense, the classic mogul personality fits perfectly with the classic gold digger. Both operate on the principal of taking care of number. He gets control and you get the Blackglama mink coat. That' whey so many wealthy men end up with Gold Diggers. In the end, they are made for each other.
(To be continued)
THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT MEN
Men Are Not a Mystery
Many women are constantly puzzled by the behavior of men. These women keep expecting men to act like women and are surprise when they don't.
Men are not like women. They are, if you will, a different kind of machine. But a machine nonetheless. They behave in very predictable ways, more so perhaps than women.
here are some characteristics of men that may surprise you.
Men do not talk to each other about relationships
In fact, Men do not talk to each other at all. That's how they have time to watch sports. Men do not interpret life in terms of relationships. They interpret life in terms of results. They therefore have a much more black and white view of the world than women.
Men do not care about flowers
When a man gives you a beautiful bouquet you may be moved to tears. But he won't care about them at all. He is giving them to you to make you do something he wants you to do or to prevent you from doing something he doesn't want you to do (like dumping him). Most likely the flowers were chosen by his secretary. The only input he had was to say, "Don't go over $65." When you call to tell him how beautiful they are, keep in mind that he probably has no idea what he sent you.
Men do not even like flowers. If they did, they would give them to each other.
Men are visually oriented.
Men are initially attracted to you by your physical appearance. (Hence the importance of looking good). A man will almost never ask you out unless he is pleased and excited by your physical appearance.
A man may like you because you have nice feet. he may like you because you have large breasts or he may like you because you have long legs or beautiful eyes and thick pouty lips. It does not matters what he likes about you. he may call you obsessively because he is fantasizing about sucking your toes or having sex with you from behind. This does not mean he cares about you. In fact, you can be sure that he doesn't. you haven't had time for him to done to you. But you can still reel him in using the things he likes about you even if a continuing relationships is not initially on his agenda.
Healthy heterosexual men are not naturally monogamous
Men like to fool around. Given the chance they will. This is nothing personal. If they don't cheat on you it's not because they don't want to, it's because they value your relationship more than they do the chance for casual sex, or they may just be lacking opportunities to cheat. All things being equal, however, the majority of men will cheat on you if they have the opportunity.
Men are attracted to women of childbearing years
While you may grow old, your man will continue to be attracted to women of childbearing years. Women can be quite comfortable with a much older man. Men, on the other hand, are genetically biologically programmed to be primarily attracted to women who are under 35-years old. Men are designed to want children and they select mates that are capable of having them. That's whey many wealthy men trade in their wives for a younger woman every 10 years or so. This is not because men are evil of selfish. This is simply because they are men. Men want to be with a woman of a woman of childbearing years even if they don't want to have children. This is why you must be prepared to fight for a big divorce settlement if he decides to trade you in.
Sex becomes more and more infrequent the time you spend together. however, his sex drive is by no means diminished.
There is an old joke that there is no sex after marriage. After a year or so of marriage you may find that this joke is on you. Your man will usually grow tired of having sex with you. This is a very bad sign for the future of your relationship, because you can be sure that his sex drive has not diminished. Your man just isn't finding you as the outlet he wants anymore.
Men like to please women, but they must feel that they can please her
A man will dump a woman he is very attracted to physically if he feels he cannot please. Men like to please women. But a woman who is constantly and relentlessly demanding will not hold on to her man because he will soon realize that no matter what he does he can never please her. This will make him miserable. More importantly, it will make him dump her. Encourage your man by showing him that he can make you happy. That will make him happy.
Men can be broken
Ask any woman who has been married five years or more. She has found the way to break down her man by getting him into a routine of being with her. Eventually they get used to the idea of being with you. after that he may get used to the idea of not being with other women, although in many cases this is a longer process. The point is you can succeed in breading him down by subtly working your way into every aspect of his life.
Men can't read your mind and don't want to
Worse than that they don't have a clue what is in it. that's why you must communicate clearly what you expect of him. Communicate in a clear but positive and upbeat way what it is you want him to do. He will want to please you if you show him you care. Being angry with him will just turn him off to you. If you yell at him you can be sure he won't do what you want. Don't expect him to know what you want. The thing you want would probably never occur to him in a thousand years. it's up to you to communicate your needs and desires. If you don't, no one else will.
Men view how you look as a reflection on them
No man wants to be seen with an unattractive or unpresentable woman. Every an wants to be seen with a beautiful woman on his arm. This is the highest status a man can achieve. There is nothing more humiliating for a man than to be seen with an ugly woman. From his perspective your looks are not about you, they are assets to him. If you don't look good enough to make him proud he will drop you. And he may do so after years of marriage. The high net worth man's nagging desire to trade up is an issue you will facing throughout your tenure as a high net worth wife. Keep in mind that because he is rich he will always be able to replace you if he wants to. Protect yourself financially in case disaster strikes. It can arrive with startling swiftness.
Life is a Business; Marring a High Net Worth Man is a Job
Life is a business and human beings are traders by nature. Your man will only care about you if he perceives that you are adding value to his life. You add value by being presentable to his friends, colleagues, family and strangers, by being an asset in his life and by giving him what he wants in bed. Unless you are providing value you can be sure he won't marry you. No employer will hire a person who can't do the job. Your knight in the shining silver jet will certainly not marry you unless he perceives you as someone who can provide continuing value. Being his wife is a very lucrative opportunity which can provide lifetime security and benefits for you and your future children. In exchange you will be expected to supervise and decorate multiple households, arrange social events, bear his children, be available for sex (whenever and however he wants it), make sure his life runs smoothly and look damn good doing it. It won't be easy but it will be well worth it!
Chapter Four
THE MOGUL PERSONALITY
If you are going to dig for real gold, you had better understand what you are getting into. While every mogul is different, with many unique positive and negative characteristics, the super-successful man will usually have the following qualities.
1) He will be different.
One of the most attractive qualities of the super-successful man is his highly developed sense of self-confidence. He knows who he is and he knows that he wants. If he want you he means it.
2) He will be very intelligent.
The super-successful man has a piercing intelligence that often gives him the ability to unravel extremely complex and difficult circumstances and see through to the most probable end result and how it will affect him. Such men often have a unique eye-opening perspective on the world because they see things so differently from the mass of ordinary people.
One mogul we know how had just bought a gay newspaper in a major city to help with his liberal wife's election campaign was being lambasted in the press by gay activists for buying the newspaper in that they viewed as a Wall Street takeover o fan important gay media outlet. When we asked this mogul how he felt about the thrashing he was getting from the press his response was certainly counter-intuitive:
"We think it's great," he said, "It's free publicity for the paper which will make mainstream advertisers comfortable that they can advertise with us without being identified with the radical gay element. This will increase our revenue between 20 and 305. Of course he was right.
3) He will be a risk taker.
You may find your mogul repeatedly gambling his existing assets to build something bigger. Your stomach may be permanently experiencing that sinking feeling from the incredible risks he is willing to take. But don't worry. Even when they fail, these guys can usually pick themselves up and get back on their feet in very short order. Read Trump: The art of the comeback, by co-authors Kate Bohner and Donald J. Trump, for a good example of how a mogul made it back from the precipice.
4) He has a low level of fear.
While he may not be completely fearless, he will be unafraid to be himself and will be much less afraid of external circumstances than the ordinary person.
5) He will be extremely energetic.
He may not need much sleep. He will have the energy to run you ragged.
6) He will be charming
Even when a successful man lacks social skills he will have charm. If he is charmless he is unlikely to stay successful.
7) He will be aware of the surrounding circumstances and people to the extent that they affect him.
He knows how others perceive him and he will have a sense (perhaps a somewhat exaggerated sense) of his own power.
8) He will be determined and persistent, even ruthless in getting what he wants.
He may perceive obstacles as opportunities and if he really wants something he will not take 'NO" for an answer.
9) He will be optimistic and positive in dealing with others.
He will be confident about his ability to get what he wants. That's how he become so successful in the first place.
10) He will be extraordinarily, mind-bogglingly selfish.
The super-successful man always asks what is in it for him. His ultimate concern is himself. It will be a challenge to make him care about you.
11) The super-successful are sued to getting their own way. Quickly, and watch out for detectives. You may find that he is controlling to the point of having you followed or kept under surveillance.
12) He may be one of more of the following:
i) Narcissistic;
ii) Charismatic;
iii) Secretive;
iv) Stingy;
v) Angry and irritable in private;
vi) Difficult to bond with;
vii) An insomniac;
viii) Or large girth or appetites;
ix) Vengeful;
x) A liar
13) He will understand that life is a business.
He will want to know what value you can add to his life.
Mogul personalities are often very difficult to live with if you fight with them for control. They may clash with a strong independent woman. Mogul personalities like to control the people around them. Sometimes they control people by taking care of them. in effect they want to own you. There is no point in fighting with him over this. You are not going to win. With the mogul personality, demonstrating your financial independence may make him uncomfortable. He will like to pay for you and give you gifts. This is something you should be able to learn to accept.
The Trump Dump
It was pitch-black in the auditorium. Donald Trump was bellowing through the public address system: "We had the best year ever!" The employees cheered. It was the holidays. The Plaza Hotel in New York City. The Trump Organization Christmas part.
Kate Bohner had spent the past months writing trump: The Art of the Comeback. Like many business magazine journalists, she had jumped at the chance to write what had to become a bestseller. So here she was, six months hence - after Trump: The Art of the Comeback had indeed become a bestseller, number 3 on the New York Times list and number 1 for The Wall Street Journal.
"Now I want to talk about my book..." cooed the Donald into the microphone. "KateSo, you here?" His ruddy, bloated face floats above the microphone. he scanned the room. "KateSo!" he barked.
Kate raised her hand from the back of the ballroom.
"I'm the only person who has a ghost writer whose picture is on the back of the book," the Donald continued. The crowd chuckled. "But hey, she's kind of great looking. " The room bursts into applause.
Later that evening, as the bad 12-piece band blared, Kate Bohner approached the Donald. She had something very important to go over with him. It was about the book.
The deal with this. She got paid 60K for the manuscript - in three installments.
"KateSo," The Donald had told her back in May. "If the book goes above number five on the new York Times bestseller list... I'll bonus you 100 grand."
The book was at Number 3. Kate was at the Christmas party to collect her bonus.
A bit later, Kate approached The Donald. He was perched by the shrimp platter. "Hey Donald, what about my 100 grand?"
"KateSo", he turned and narrowed his eyes. "Sue me", he declared coldly.
Kate was stunned.
But why was she shocked?
Over the past year, in the course of writing the book, Kate told us she has watched The Donald offer 10 cents on the dollar to settle a bill he owed to a contractor with four kids who had just lost a big job. She had seen him fire that contractor's brother, a steam fitter, on Christmas Day. The Citiback loan officer who had turned him down for a revolving credit facility in 1995, when he nearly went personally bankrupt? The Donald spent hours ensuring her son had difficulties getting a commercial lease in New York City.
Why had Kate thought she was any different?
The truth is it was nothing personal. Trump was just being the Donald. To him it was just business. Kate hadn't gotten the bonus promise in writing. In Bohner's view, The Donald stiffed her just because he could.
Trump, like every truly successful person, is totally focused on his own needs and desires. His real expertise is taking care of himself. people like trump seem aggressively selfish... because they are. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.
Study your target carefully. If he has a classic mogul personality, you will be able to fit very nicely into his life on his terms in the classic manner. he pays the bills and you lobby quitely for the things you really want. Whatever power you have will have to be exerted from within the context of your relationship through cajoling and persuasion.
In a sense, the classic mogul personality fits perfectly with the classic gold digger. Both operate on the principal of taking care of number. He gets control and you get the Blackglama mink coat. That' whey so many wealthy men end up with Gold Diggers. In the end, they are made for each other.
(To be continued)
How to Marry a Multi-Millionaire: The Ultimate Guide to High Net Worth Dating.(2)
/// Part One ///
High Net Worth Mating
Chapter One
The Honorable Gold Digger
Taking care of Number One
There is nothing wrong with true love. If you can find it. The problem is most people never do. And women who sit around passively waiting for their true love to walk into their life and find them are bound to be disappointed. The only thing that will find them is old age.
While we should never give up the hope of finding true love, in the meantime looking out for number one is the most effectively strategy for individual survival. There really is no meaningful alternative to a strategy of self-interest.
A woman exists primarily to fulfill her own needs and desires her ultimate concern must be herself and her well being. Securing her financial security and comfort with an exciting and successful high net is a key goal for every intelligent, aggressive woman.
The best way to secure your future for yourself and your children is to marry a man who is rich enough and capable enough to survive comfortably through any foreseeable financial reversal.
Women need to secure their financial future while they are still of childbearing age so they can raise a family in comfort. Even high-powered Wall Street careers will rarely allow a woman time to amass enough wealthy to retire and raise a family in style and comfort.
if you graduate from business school between 23-25 years of age, it will take your at least 10 years to achieve the rank of Managing Director at a Wall Street investment bank. Even if you stay there working 16 hour days and claw your way to the top, you will just be reaching your peak earning power as your fertility begins to decline precipitously. This is the time when many professional women panic and start desperately trying to seek a husband. At this point you are negotiating from a position of weakness. your dates can see the desperation in your eyes. And the anxiety about missing the chance to have children will adversely affect and may even overwhelm your emotional well-being and can damage your high-powered career.
But if you start planning in your 20s and focus on marrying a rich man with the same dedication you would devote to a Wall Street career, you are much more likely to be rewarded with success and a great lifestyle.
Do you really want to end up as a haggard, overworked, overwrought, childless and single middle-aged woman? Or do you want to get out there and fight for a successful, intelligent and dynamic high net worth man now, while you can still get one.
The choice is yours.
A time-honored profession
Marrying wealthy is a time-honored profession. It is best distinguished from the world's oldest profession by one important fact. It is older. And, of course, wives and mothers are not usually paid by the hour.
It doesn't matter where you live. It doesn't matter where you are now. It does not matter what you do for a living. even if you are stuck on a dirt farm in Arkansas or lying in rags on a bearskin rug in a cave in Siberia, if you are an attractive woman, you can land a wealthy husband by getting on the next plane to New York City. you don't even need to speak much English. All you need is a shower, a manicure, pedicure, high heels and a great out fit. Then get on the high net worth dating circuit. Charge your tickets to the important benefits listed below and get out there and date. The world is about to become your playground.
You add value
As an ambitious woman, you should think of yourself as a value added service provider. you should not seek positions where you are insufficiently compensated for the value you added to your man's life.
An ambitious woman can provide the following diverse array of services to her wealthy companion or significant other. She offers:
1) Charming companionship
2) Intense sex
3) Social graces
4) Arm and eye candy(yourself and your attractive girlfriends)
5) Potential wife and mother material for his unborn heirs
6) A helpmate to organize his social and professional life
7) Interior decorator for multiple residences and the Gulf Stream.
Finding a High Net Worth Mate is Full-Time Job
In fulfilling all of these roles or in seeking a position as a wife or mistress you will have overhead. You will have expenses. Your income must over all the following expenses and fund a healthy nest egg for your future retirement (in case, despite all of your good efforts, you never do land that high profile husband).
1) Apartment or house
2) Gym and personal trainer
3) Spa treatments
4) Manicure and pedicure
5) High-end hair salon
6) Large wardrobe of sexy clothes for many possible occasion from an outdoor barbecue, to the beach, to the Metropolitan Museum Gala Costume Institute Party, to summer and winter cocktail parties, ski trips, dinners and business conferences.
7) la Perla, Wolford, Eres, and Agent Provocateur underwear
8) High-end handbags,
9) Shoes, shoes, shoes
10) And last but not least, especially in the later years, plastic surgery.
This adds up to a great deal of cash. You may be tempted to take a full-time job. That could be a mistake. Not having a steady source of income while piling up huge debts will actually incentivize you to be bolder in seizing high net worth dating opportunities.
Besides, you don't have time to work!
Chapter Two
The Tao Of Gold Digging
Gold digging is an art. To learn it well you must understand the basic principles and philosophy of the successful Gold Digger. The following Gold Rules can be used to successfully organize your life.
THE 10 GOLD RULES
1) Life is a business and nature is a free market system.
2) Your appearance is your most important economic asset.
3) Marriage can be a very lucrative occupation.
4) You will get the job if you add value.
5) Good is what's good for you.
6) Evil is anything not in your interest.
7) What he likes about you is not about you.
8) Morality is an opinion.
9) Rejection is information.
10) The best things in life are very expensive.
THE 10 GOLDEN RULES EXPLAINED
Life is a Business and Nature is a Free Market System
You only get gold by giving it. You will only marry a rich man if you can demonstrate the value you add to his life. Don't count on him marrying you for love. It isn't going to happen unless you know him how you can be an asset to him. And since nature is a free market system you can claw your way to the top just as men do in business. you just can't be quite so obvious.
Your Appearance is Your Most Important Economic Asset
Beauty is among the highest accomplishments for a woman. Beauty is a sign of genetic health. That's why men are attracted to beautiful women. Your job is to make yourself look beautiful whenever you go out in public. Beauty creates possibilities. Looking good is an economic asset. Your man wants a beautiful woman on his arm. Your beauty is not about you. It's an asset to him. If he doesn't think you look good on him, he won't marry you.
Marriage Can Be a Very Lucrative Occupation
No matter what career you choose, you can't possibly earn as much money as you will in the position of high net worth wife. Single women can't make enough to afford big houses in Southampton, Aspen, Palm Beach and New York. Don't kid yourself. The position of a wife to a wealthy man is far and away the best paying job you can have.
You Will Get the Job if You Add Value
Being an asset to him in as many ways as possible is the surest way to increase the net assets line in your financial statement. Give him what he wants and needs and he will give you gold (and diamonds too!).
Good is What's Good for You
You've got to start by redefining your values. You must realize that good and bad can only be judged in relation to a goal. They do not exist in the abstract. Good is when you lure your high net worth fiance away from your best girlfriend. Good is when you get what you want.
Evil is Anything Not in Your Interest
Evil is when your best girlfriend steals the heart of your fiance and he ends up marrying her and not you or if he goes back to his ex-girlfriend or wife. Evil is when someone else gets what you want.
What He likes About You is Not About You
Your prospective husband will like you only to the extent you give him what he wants. He may want you for sex, motherhood, and to be his social director, golf partner, cook and girl Friday. He may want you because he likes to lick your toes. He may like you because you know a lot about decorating or cooking. he may like you because you have good genes or large breasts or a distinguished family name. Whatever the reason, don't forget that these are all qualities that are assets to him.
Morality is an Opinion
Your job is to get your guy, not to speculate on the moral fabric of the universe. It's rare that two people's views of morality will coincide. Don't worry about the morality of marrying for money, worry about your waistline and the size of your ass. That is far more productive.
Rejection is Information
Rejection means you are in the game. If you never want to be rejected you might as well give up now. Rejection is something you learn from. What you learn is what your guy wants. Whether he wants you or doesn't want you the reasons will be his reasons. Rejection just means he didn't perceive you as a significant asset to his life. Sometimes this happens when a man figures out what you are really up to.
The Best Things in Life Are Very Expensive
Private schools, ski vacations, good jewelry, palatial homes and high-end handbags come at a steep price. The only way to afford them (unless you are one of the lucky few who inherited substantial wealthy), is to get someone to buy them for you. And believe us when we tell you that, except in very unusual circumstances, he will not be buying you a palatial home unless you are married to him.
THE 10 GOLDEN COMMANDMENTS - A FRAMEWORK FOR ACTION
Once you understand the 10 Golden Rules you are ready for the 10 Golden Commandments. The 10 Gold Commandments give you the framework for action you need to snare a high net worth husband.
1) In every relationship, always ask, "What's in it for me?"
2) Help yourself and let others help themselves.
3) Know what you want.
4) Be energetic and persistent in pursuing your man.
5) Know when to break the rules.
6) Don't be nice, be charming and sexy.
7) Be flexible and aware of shifting opportunities.
8) Don't get angry, get what you want.
9) Don't be negative.
10) Understand that what others do is not about you.
THE 10 G0LDEN COMMANDMENTS EXPLAINED
In Every Relationship, always Ask, "What's in it for me?"
This is the key question in every phase of human interaction. If you don't know what you are getting out of the situation, why are you in it? If you can't answer this question it is often because you are doing something to please another person, not yourself. This will usually end up making you unhappy. Don't do things to please other people, do them to please yourself.
Help Yourself and Let Others Help Themselves
Worry about yourself. if you want o help a person, do so because it provides some benefit to you. Helping others with no benefit to yourself is a symptom of low self-esteem and a recipe for personal failure. Saying of others "she's out for herself" is not a very pointed criticism. After all, who with any sense isn't?
Know what you want
If you don't know what you want you are never going to get it. Some women don't want to marry a rich man. Some women don't want to be able to buy anything they want. We don't know who these women are but we see them everywhere, working in meaningless office jobs, cleaning up office buildings, working in the supermarket or the post office or just walking around looking aimless and bored. These women don't realize that if you don't know what you want no one else will.
Be Energetic and Persistent in Pursuing Your Man
Life is a process of trying something, bumping up against an obstacle and being repulsed, then trying something different until finally you have a breakthrough and achieve your goal. Since you will constantly run into obstacles, you will be defeated if you lack the energy and persistence to get around them. when you run into an obstacle, instead of getting discouraged, try to see what opportunity the new obstacle presents. you may find that what looked like an obstacle may actually be something that can help you get your guy.
Know When to Break Rules
Rules are for other people. Don't obey rules for their own sake. They were not made for your benefit. Crashing a big charity benefit may be against the rules but if you do it you may be able to meet a number of eligible high net worth men. No one will thank you for obeying the rules and staying home to watch TV because you can't afford a benefit ticket or because it is sold out or you weren't invited. On the other hand you should not take extreme risks of long-term adverse consequences. Committing violent crimes of aggression to sabotage your girlfriend's efforts to land the man you want is unlikely to be the most efficient way to archive your goal. Simply undermine your rivals with malicious gossip. It is not necessary to physically kill them. Deciding whether to break or bend a rule is simply a matter of balancing the relative costs and benefits of the alternative courses of action.
Don't Be Nice, Be Charming and Sexy
Being charming, sexy and flirtatious is an important tool for getting what you want from another person. Being nice is weak because it does not ask for anything. Don't be nice gratuitously, but always be charming. The positive energy you exude can reap enormous benefits by attracting people to you who can help you get what you want.
Be Flexible and Aware of Shifting Opportunities
Circumstances are constantly changing. Your sensitivity and awareness of what is going on around you are your most important tools for getting what you want. By being aware of other people's needs and desires, you can figure out what you can offer them to get them to do what you want. The Key to life is being in the moment. If you are distracted, tired, cross or grumpy, you will miss numerous opportunities around you. You are most likely to be in the moment when you are well rested, look good and feel confident. If you are in the zone, you will have a much more positive experience of life. if you are grumpy and negative, you will repel rather than attract people and you will lose out on the possibilities they offer.
Don't Get Angry, Get What You Want
Anger is frustration at your own impotence in the face of a failure to get what you want. it is childish, tantrum-like, and has no place in your repertoire of emotions. If you are successful at getting what you want, you will have no reason to be angry. And if you fail to get what you want, it's usually because you made a mistake or miscalculation or failed to take into account an external circumstance or another person's action. This is a reason to do better next time. It is not a reason to be angry. So don't go psycho! Go shopping instead.
Don't Be Negative
Positive action requests a positive result. Being negative doesn't work because it doesn't ask for anything positive to happen. Criticism can be great fun but it won't solve the problem. Only positive action solves problems. Being negative repels other people instinctively because they know it is not a successful strategy. And other people won't want to be around you if they perceive you are an unsuccessful person. By being negative, you are waving a sign post that reads "I don't know how to get what I want. All I know how to do is complain."
Understand That What Others Do Is Not About You.
Other people do things for their own reasons. They usually don't do them intentionally to help or hurt you. They are just trying to get what they want. You may be in the way or you may not be. The best way to avoid the energy drain and friction that comes from confrontation is to stay out of the way of other people when it does not hurt you to do so. There is no point in having a confrontation over the fact that someone shoved you in the subway. It's simply energy draining and a complete waste of time. The Manolo Blahniks sample sale? That's a situation where you should get aggressive. Grab that last pair of silver stilettos right out of the hands of that pushy publicist ahead of you, sweetie!
10 Important Dating Tips for Men
There is a saying that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.
1. Take a Bath or ShowerOne of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on TimeWhatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful GiftA woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a GentlemanHold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask QuestionsNobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the ConversationThe last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Pay for the DateIt's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call YouOnly tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
1. Take a Bath or ShowerOne of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on TimeWhatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful GiftA woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a GentlemanHold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask QuestionsNobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the ConversationThe last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Pay for the DateIt's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call YouOnly tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
How to Captivate a Man, Make Him Fall in Love with You -- and Give You the World
The secret to understanding men -- and using it to your advantage
When it comes to your relationships with men, which of the following do you find yourself saying? (Check the ones that apply to you.)
"Why didn't he call?" "How can I find the right man? "Why do I always date losers? "Why doesn't he love me anymore? "What am I doing wrong? "Why do some women have great relationships with men -- and mine are always dull, unfulfilling and boring? "If only I could understand men...."
If you checked one or more of the above, then the following article may be the most eye-opening one you'll ever read.
The important thing to remember is that you're not alone. Most women -- whether single or married -- have asked themselves these kinds of questions. In my 16 years of relationship counseling, I've found that the reason women have these concerns is because they simply don't understand men.
Did you know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, influence a man to your way of thinking, bring him to his knees, make him want to spend his life with you -- and want to fulfill your every desire?
Yes, it's true! You can have a healthy, loving relationship. And the best part is that you can do it easily and effortlessly by being yourself -- and NOT shaping yourself into someone you're not just to keep your man interested. I'll give you solid proof of this in a moment.
When you read this article in its entirety, you'll discover how to tap into the power that resides within you -- whether you want to revolutionize your dating life, get married or spark the fire within your marriage.
Who Am I -- and Why Should You Believe Me?
My name is Bob Grant. I've been a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach for 16 years. The majority of my clients are women, who have sought my help in creating successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men.
More than the certificates and licenses I've accumulated over the years, I take most pride in the number of wedding invitations I receive from my clients who've found successful, healthy relationships as a result of my relationship advice and tips. I've also saved dozens of marriages from disaster, dissolution -- and just plain boredom.
That's why I'm called "The Relationship Doctor." I have the prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.
The method I'm about to reveal to you is not based on theory, guesswork or the "psycho-babble" that's disseminated by pop psychologists, self-help books and women's magazines. Unlike other resources that claim to help you understand men, my strategy is based on real-life feedback from thousands of real-life women who tried my relationship advice and found that it produced a dramatic difference in their relationships with men.
Now, you can find out what my method can do for you. Whether you're ...
a single woman who wants to attract the right man -- or add romance to your dating life
a woman who dates frequently, but finds it hard to sustain a relationship with a man;
a woman who wants to be married but can't seem to persuade the man in your life to pop the question; or
a married woman who wants to spark the fire within your marriage and enjoy deeper intimacy with your husband
... you'll discover the secret that will make you radiate like a warm and glowing campfire -- and give you an aura that men will find absolutely irresistible.
How to Be the Woman Men Adore ... and Never Want to Leave
Have you ever met the kind of woman ...
that men fall hopelessly in love with with whom men want to spend all their time whom men want to please and do anything for who brings out the romantic and passionate side of a man; and to whom men want to give everything? What special quality, trait, or personality does this woman have that men find attractive and draws them like a magnet, makes men powerless in her hands, and makes them want to spend their lives with her?
I've personally met many women like this -- and here's the startling observation I've made: These women are not necessarily the most beautiful, the tallest, the smartest, the one with the most gorgeous hair, sexy legs or the most ample breasts, as one might think!
A look back in history reveals the likes of ...
... homely divorcée Wallis Simpson, for whom the Duke of Windsor abdicated the throne of England; ... the early-twentieth-century French writer Colette (described as having a "frightful" appearance), who managed to have numerous male conquests; ... Martha Gellhorn, the plain-looking scholar for whom Ernest Hemingway became love-sick and never recovered; ... Mumtaz, for whom the Emperor Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal; and ... Camilla Parker Bowles, who won the heart of Prince Charles.
And then, of course, there's Barbra Streisand, who captured the heart of, and later married, the handsome actor James Brolin. In fact, she reportedly refused his many marriage proposals before finally agreeing to be his wife.
These kinds of women know the secret to creating magic with men. And here's the good news for you, if you're like most women who struggle with relationship trouble. The ability to create magic with men is NOT really magic at all. It’s a skill which can be learned by any woman -- and that includes you!
Before I tell you how to acquire that secret skill (which already resides inside you, though dormant), let me ask you a question:
Why Do Most Women Struggle in Their Relationships with Men?
There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble, but as I mentioned before, the main reason is that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.
If you're like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) -- it's unwise to take relationship advice or tips from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden -- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men.
Now, don't get me wrong. Some of your girlfriends might indeed have the wisdom to give you good advice -- but that advice will almost always be based only on their own limited experience and observation. Just because your girlfriend has had an experience similar to yours doesn't mean her advice applies to your situation.
I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn't working right!
Just goes to show how little women know about men!
Everything You Ever Learned About How to Attract and Keep a Man is Wrong!
There's another insidious thing masquerading as relationship advice for women -- and that is, women's magazines. Women's magazines teach women how to look, be and act around men -- and only serve to impress other women, propagate poor self-image, and show women how to "hook" a man by being everything but themselves. Sadly, most of the relationship tips that women's magazines give were written by women for women -- and they don't enable women to understand men at all.
What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just by being yourself?
Yes, you don't have to be anything but yourself. There's just one condition. You also have to understand what a man wants.
Will Giving a Man What He Wants Get You What You Want?
My answer is a resounding "Yes!"
Here's the hidden key to a loving relationship. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.
Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick -- and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" -- or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they?
When it comes to your relationships with men, which of the following do you find yourself saying? (Check the ones that apply to you.)
"Why didn't he call?" "How can I find the right man? "Why do I always date losers? "Why doesn't he love me anymore? "What am I doing wrong? "Why do some women have great relationships with men -- and mine are always dull, unfulfilling and boring? "If only I could understand men...."
If you checked one or more of the above, then the following article may be the most eye-opening one you'll ever read.
The important thing to remember is that you're not alone. Most women -- whether single or married -- have asked themselves these kinds of questions. In my 16 years of relationship counseling, I've found that the reason women have these concerns is because they simply don't understand men.
Did you know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, influence a man to your way of thinking, bring him to his knees, make him want to spend his life with you -- and want to fulfill your every desire?
Yes, it's true! You can have a healthy, loving relationship. And the best part is that you can do it easily and effortlessly by being yourself -- and NOT shaping yourself into someone you're not just to keep your man interested. I'll give you solid proof of this in a moment.
When you read this article in its entirety, you'll discover how to tap into the power that resides within you -- whether you want to revolutionize your dating life, get married or spark the fire within your marriage.
Who Am I -- and Why Should You Believe Me?
My name is Bob Grant. I've been a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach for 16 years. The majority of my clients are women, who have sought my help in creating successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men.
More than the certificates and licenses I've accumulated over the years, I take most pride in the number of wedding invitations I receive from my clients who've found successful, healthy relationships as a result of my relationship advice and tips. I've also saved dozens of marriages from disaster, dissolution -- and just plain boredom.
That's why I'm called "The Relationship Doctor." I have the prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.
The method I'm about to reveal to you is not based on theory, guesswork or the "psycho-babble" that's disseminated by pop psychologists, self-help books and women's magazines. Unlike other resources that claim to help you understand men, my strategy is based on real-life feedback from thousands of real-life women who tried my relationship advice and found that it produced a dramatic difference in their relationships with men.
Now, you can find out what my method can do for you. Whether you're ...
a single woman who wants to attract the right man -- or add romance to your dating life
a woman who dates frequently, but finds it hard to sustain a relationship with a man;
a woman who wants to be married but can't seem to persuade the man in your life to pop the question; or
a married woman who wants to spark the fire within your marriage and enjoy deeper intimacy with your husband
... you'll discover the secret that will make you radiate like a warm and glowing campfire -- and give you an aura that men will find absolutely irresistible.
How to Be the Woman Men Adore ... and Never Want to Leave
Have you ever met the kind of woman ...
that men fall hopelessly in love with with whom men want to spend all their time whom men want to please and do anything for who brings out the romantic and passionate side of a man; and to whom men want to give everything? What special quality, trait, or personality does this woman have that men find attractive and draws them like a magnet, makes men powerless in her hands, and makes them want to spend their lives with her?
I've personally met many women like this -- and here's the startling observation I've made: These women are not necessarily the most beautiful, the tallest, the smartest, the one with the most gorgeous hair, sexy legs or the most ample breasts, as one might think!
A look back in history reveals the likes of ...
... homely divorcée Wallis Simpson, for whom the Duke of Windsor abdicated the throne of England; ... the early-twentieth-century French writer Colette (described as having a "frightful" appearance), who managed to have numerous male conquests; ... Martha Gellhorn, the plain-looking scholar for whom Ernest Hemingway became love-sick and never recovered; ... Mumtaz, for whom the Emperor Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal; and ... Camilla Parker Bowles, who won the heart of Prince Charles.
And then, of course, there's Barbra Streisand, who captured the heart of, and later married, the handsome actor James Brolin. In fact, she reportedly refused his many marriage proposals before finally agreeing to be his wife.
These kinds of women know the secret to creating magic with men. And here's the good news for you, if you're like most women who struggle with relationship trouble. The ability to create magic with men is NOT really magic at all. It’s a skill which can be learned by any woman -- and that includes you!
Before I tell you how to acquire that secret skill (which already resides inside you, though dormant), let me ask you a question:
Why Do Most Women Struggle in Their Relationships with Men?
There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble, but as I mentioned before, the main reason is that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.
If you're like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) -- it's unwise to take relationship advice or tips from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden -- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men.
Now, don't get me wrong. Some of your girlfriends might indeed have the wisdom to give you good advice -- but that advice will almost always be based only on their own limited experience and observation. Just because your girlfriend has had an experience similar to yours doesn't mean her advice applies to your situation.
I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn't working right!
Just goes to show how little women know about men!
Everything You Ever Learned About How to Attract and Keep a Man is Wrong!
There's another insidious thing masquerading as relationship advice for women -- and that is, women's magazines. Women's magazines teach women how to look, be and act around men -- and only serve to impress other women, propagate poor self-image, and show women how to "hook" a man by being everything but themselves. Sadly, most of the relationship tips that women's magazines give were written by women for women -- and they don't enable women to understand men at all.
What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just by being yourself?
Yes, you don't have to be anything but yourself. There's just one condition. You also have to understand what a man wants.
Will Giving a Man What He Wants Get You What You Want?
My answer is a resounding "Yes!"
Here's the hidden key to a loving relationship. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.
Unfortunately, most women simply don't know how to make a man feel good. Believe it or not, the majority of women have the mistaken notion that learning a few sexual tricks and bedroom stunts from Cosmo and the Kama Sutra, or cooking him sumptuous meals "better than Mama ever made" ought to do the trick -- and their man would stay devoted to them forever.
That's an outdated mode of thinking derived from the old wives' tale that says "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" -- or his crotch, in most instances. If that were true, then sex therapists, prostitutes and professional chefs would have the best marriages, wouldn't they?
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